I’m feeling the holiday blues this week. It’s manageable and I’ll shake it off soon enough…but in the meantime (oops, at first I wrote mantime), it might be therapeutic to do a little ranting.
It’s always good to eat comfort food when you’re ranting. Try this lighter version of macaroni and cheese.
Top Complaints of 2016:
Men who cancel a first date within hours of the designated day/time and only when prompted by an email or text.
The backstory: This happened recently. I hadn’t heard from Mr. D in 3 days so I texted him to confirm our date. Mr. D replied by email to say he needed to cancel because of his work schedule and maybe we could try again after the holidays. Feeling fed up, I decided not to respond and blocked his number. Of course, he was on OurTime at the moment our date was supposed to happen. For whatever reason, he changed his mind about wanting to meet me.
Today I was scrolling through profiles on another site and one of the guys had the same profile word for word as Mr. D. One or both of them is a liar.
Men who swipe Yes on a “swiping app” such as Tinder or Bumble but then delete me right after we match.
The backstory: I’m pretty sure these are the guys who respond solely to a woman’s photo. My theory is that once we match, they take a closer look, see my age, and unmatch me.
Men who view me daily but never contact me.
The backstory: What IS this backstory? You tell me. Are they just playing? It’s annoying because you think someone likes you. Really, it’s just teasing.
Men who view me daily, finally contact me, send an email or two and THEN disappear. Sometimes they start viewing me again months later.
The backstory: Teasing, just like the guys who never email. These men don’t really want to meet anyone. Perhaps they have been castrated.
Men whose main photo shows them posing with a gun:
The backstory: WTF! WTF! I guess they hope to attract female NRA members.
Men whose main profile pix is with Mom…or the main profile pix is just Mom.
The backstory: I’m not sure of the message when it’s coming from a 60 year old man. Is he trying to show he has strong family bonds, that he has good genes, that he’s a Mama’s boy?
Men whose main profile photo is with their children….or the photo is just the kids.
The backstory: First of all, it’s a bad idea to put photos of your children on a dating site. These men may want to show that you get a “package deal” but you can put that info in a profile.
Men who excel in the digital tease
As Jessica Bennett reports in the New York Times, if you date in the digital age you may have encountered a breadcrumber: “They communicate via sporadic noncommittal, but repeated messages — or breadcrumbs — that are just enough to keep you wondering but not enough to seal the deal (whatever that deal may be).”
I went out with a guy like this. One date followed by sporadic emails every 3 weeks, including one to wish me “Happy Thanksgiving, dear.” He’ll probably contact me on Christmas day. I think my reply will be to send him a link to the Times article.
Men with poor hygiene (oral and full body).
I’ve been ranting about this all year. Nothing new to add but I wanted to note it for the record.
Not knowing whether your gut is right.
Remember Elizabeth in Pride and Prejudice? At first her gut told her to reject Mr. Darcy…. but then she gets new information about him and realizes her gut was wrong and that she loves him.
Sometimes, like Elizabeth, my gut is wrong. However, I believe the old saying that the body doesn’t lie. If you feel something is wrong, it usually is.
Until next week, happy ranting, dating or not dating.