Like any athlete in training or experienced hobbyist, I’ve developed some best practices to help me achieve my goal. In my case, I’m trying to break through the clutter of online dating to have as many dates as needed to find my ideal mate – or at least someone who might be my ideal partner. My tactics go beyond creating a creative profile.
Any woman engaged in online dating needs an arsenal of maneuvers to elicit interest from men. So here are my tips and tricks. Let’s talk about it and enjoy
I’m always looking for new ideas; so if you have any tools of the trade, please share!
- You’ve had your eye on Mr. Marvelous for a week but he hasn’t reached out and he hasn’t viewed you unless he has paid for anonymous viewing. The next time he’s online when you are, make sure you open and view his profile. If you feel like being proactive, go for it. Otherwise, just viewing his profile may elicit a response since he’s already online.
- Mr. Wonderful emailed you and you happen to be online. Face it; you’re online multiple times a day. Conventional dating wisdom says to wait 24 hours before responding…to make him work for it and not think you are so available. However, given the pace of relationships today, Mr. Wonderful could meet someone, marry, and divorce in that 24-hour period. So strike while the iron is at least reasonably warm – about 15 to 20 minutes after he emailed you. There’s a good chance, he’s still online and you can engage in a written dialogue.
- Go online before work: 7:30 a.m. to 8:30 a.m., at lunchtime: 11:30 a.m. – 1:00 p.m., after work: 5:00 p.m. – 6:30 p.m., and at the end of the evening: 9:30 p.m. – 11:00 p.m. I’ve noticed that men seem to be more active online during these time periods. Also, some men seem to search by “who’s online.”
- You’ve exchanged emails and maybe had a phone conversation. To keep Mr. Possible Right thinking about you, send him a link to a song you like or email him a funny poem or interesting news article. It’s even better if any of these “excuses” relate in some way to your conversation or email exchange.
- Cut off contact – emails, phone calls, or dates, as soon as you realize there is no future with this man. See previous post about how to break up.
- Clean out the matches in your queue – deleting the ones you’re not interested in – like the guy in the skimpy bathing trunks or the man with kindergarten-age children (been there, done that). Not only will this save you time when scrolling through profiles, but the datingbots know you need more matches when you delete profiles, so you’ll finally see some new faces.
- Copy Mr. Hunk’s profile and picture into a word document, print it, and keep in a file folder labeled Mr. Hunk. This way you can view his profile any time you want to without him knowing (though sometimes you want him to know). It will also help you keep track if you are pursuing or being pursued by multiple Mr. Hunks.
- Keep a list of good general questions handy for that first phone conversation with Mr. Sexy Dancer. Supplement with specific questions tied to his profile. Take notes during the phone call and keep your notes in that file folder you created (see above tip).
- Think out of the box when it comes to date ideas. How about suggesting a Ping-Pong match (there are Ping Pong parlors), an open mic at a coffee house, or a restaurant with unusual entertainment (e.g., belly dancing).
- Try sending a wink rather than email. It has worked for me.
Let me know what happens if you try any of these ideas. Until next week, happy dating.