If you’re a member of Match you may have signed up for the fairly new Missed Connections service, which uses GPS to alert you to matches you have crossed paths with.
Missed Connections seems to be fairly accurate, calculating correctly that I have driven by Street X or Highway Y or walked by Avenue Z. Some of my missed connections are regulars – so much so that I wonder if they’re hiding in my trunk.
This new Match feature has triggered a few “views” of my profile and I have “viewed” some of my connections. I had one email exchange with a guy but I’m eight years older than him, which may be the reason he stopped writing.
If you want to email your Missed Connection, take advantage of a potentially common destination as an easy opener:
“Hey, were you also going to that blues concert in Adams Morgan on Friday?”
You see what I mean.
This Match feature got me thinking about other “missed connection” avenues, especially the popular one on Craigslist. I think there are some lessons to be learned from these “personals.” Let’s take a look at a few while enjoying some tuna spring rolls with pineapple dipping sauce. In the interest of privacy, I changed some minor details in the ads.
7 Summers Ago… Corner Bakery – m4w (Friendship Heights)
As mystic as this seems I must take the long shot and follow the edict of my heart and the celestial wireless…In The Summer of 2010 I met you at Friendship Heights Corner Bakery, was immediately smitten and got you breakfast on the Al-Fresca. I remember having a great time but not being smart as a wild 26 year old…We parted ways with no contact and I’ve never forgotten you. You were such an anomaly…a gorgeous Desi babe in painters overalls…You told me you were adopted. You had a patrician silence that was seemingly super compatible with my fire and locquatious (sic) nature. I have attached my pic if you are out there…I’ll be at Corner Bakery hoping for Destiny on May Day…I can take a chance on the love I’ve felt for 7 years…
Tomorrow is May Day! This reminds me of the movie An Affair to Remember.
Seven years after this man bought a woman breakfast, he’s still thinking about her. Sounds like a real connection – at least on his part. I wonder why they didn’t exchange numbers…definitely one of the lessons learned.
Two nights at home depot – m4w (Gaithersburg)
Two nights in a row we saw each other at the checkout. We have some type of flirty connection.
Let me know what I bought so I know it is you…
Hard to know whether these two people were in the same line. If not, it would certainly be harder to talk. One of them could have stalled outside the store and started a conversation. Easier said than done but the bottom line is sometimes you have to take a risk and hope the other person is truly interested in you.
You complimented me on my pocket square – m4w (Red Line)
Riding in to DC on the Red Line last week you tapped me on the shoulder and told me you liked my pocket square. You said it made you happy. I believe it was last Thursday. I should have told you I liked your smile. 😉
Give me some details about what I look like and the pocket square in particular, and I’ll take you to Lunch or for drinks some time…
That’s all it takes – a compliment. Sadly, he blew it …and he knows it. Oh, why didn’t they exchange information?
Uber rider, to Georgetown hotel – m4m)
You and your friend rode with me. You were cute, looked back a few times when I dropped you off. Send me details so I know it’s you
What could he have done? I think he should have given her his card as she stepped out of the car.
braindead – m4w
You work for a Congressman and I spoke with you about the tv show Braindead. I thought you were cute. I’d love to chat more with you.
Not sure where they met or why they didn’t exchange numbers.
Shyness can strike anyone! Present company included.
Starbucks at Rockville Town Center This morning… – m4w (Rockville, MD)
height: 5’11” (180cm)
We kept looking at each other and I wanted to say something, but I was late and in a rush…I was wearing a black t-shirt and jeans..I hope you read these or live in the Town Center…:)
He could return on the same day of the week and time…just in case she’s a regular there.
Jewish community center in DC- m4w (DC)
This is a stretch but we passed each other roughly three times in the hallway and I couldn’t help but look every time. You were in black pants and a white with stripes loose top. Never got a chance to connect but if you see this, shoot me a message. I’d be amazed to be able to connect with ya.
Okay, by the third encounter, he should have made a joke and said “I hear the 4th time is the charm- why don’t we grab a coffee some day?”
Cougar with short silver hair at Ella’s 1:45 p.m. – m4w (Gallery Place)
You are absolutely stunning and wore tall nude heels and maybe a pashmina. Only noticed you as you left Ella’s by Gallery Place. Would love to grab a drink with you. How young is too young?
I get a lot of online variations on this theme. My standard response, “I don’t date anyone the same age or younger than my children.”
Take Home Message: You never know what impact you might be having on someone. If it’s clear that you and Mr. or Ms. X are both silently flirting, take a risk and say hi (respectfully). Say anything that might lead to a conversation and eventual phone number exchange because the chances of you connecting again – even with Craigslist—are slim.
Until next week, happy dating or not dating.