No, I’m not confusing my holidays. My resolutions ARE for Valentine’s Day, in hopes that I will have a Valentine or at least a promising Valentine’s Day date in another month. This doesn’t give me much time for implementing my resolutions and certainly no time to cook – so let’s lunch on this quick pasta dish.
There are people who say that vocalizing your intentions and believing they will come true ensures they will become reality. So, I’m going out on a limb – possibly a whim – to say the following actions will bring me what I’m visualizing (6’4” of the sweetest man possible).
I hope you will come up with your own Valentine’s Day Resolutions. Feel free to take mine and modify them to suit you as needed.
Some of these resolutions are based on altering my everyday schedule. As someone who doesn’t work in an office anymore, I often take advantage of my flexibility and do things during off-peak hours. The problem with this strategy is that I’m less likely to encounter single men who might still be on a traditional work schedule. I do my grocery shopping on a weekday morning, go to the gym mid-morning or mid-afternoon, swim at lunchtime, write in my pleasant home office, etc.
Here’s how I plan to change things up a bit:
*Pick up a couple of grocery items in the evening. I will still do my “big shopping” during the week but this special and quick trip allows me to strike a compromise between my relaxed schedule and the time when working/teleworking single men might be shopping.
*Go to different grocery stores for these quick trips, particularly those that have “social” reputations.
*Go to wine stores in the evening, particularly when they are offering a free tasting.
*Go to the gym one evening a week. Since I belong to a gym with many branches throughout the area, I can also try different locations.
*Have dinner at a bar one night a week. See my post on meeting men in bars.
*Attend three events sponsored by a single meet-up in an effort to have repeated exposure.
*Once a week, write in a coffee shop.
*Once a week, run a random errand in the evening. Possibilities: A hardware store, a bookstore, a car wash.
*Take a new class. I’m considering a free introduction to improv class.
*Make a schedule of these resolutions. If I have a set schedule, I’m more likely to follow through on these actions.
Whatever your circumstance – retired, teleworking, flexible schedule – ask yourself how you can change your activities and your schedule to expand your circle of daily encounters. The goal: Meet new people in new venues. And try to lose the resting bitch face while you’re out and about.
Tell me about your Valentine’s Day resolutions!
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Until next week, happy dating or not dating.